5 Attributes of a Godly Woman

Last month South Africa celebrated a month dedicated to women. I was honored to share a sermon on attributes of a Godly woman. Below is a link to the audio for my sermon as well as the written version!

Godly Woman Sermon

I can’t stand here and say I know everything about being a godly woman or a kingdom woman. It is my greatest desire to be a Godly woman; a woman whose life is completely surrendered to Christ and living out the call He has for her life. I have learned many things about being this woman from other godly women the Lord has placed in my life from the time I was very little until now. I used to think this image of a “Godly woman” was unattainable. I was just too flawed. Then I started really living out the gospel, and Daddy showed me that He has called me not to live in bondage but in total freedom. His will for me is to have abundant life, so that idea of a “Godly woman” became more realistic and something I know is a part of my present and future.  As I began to surrender my all to Christ, I felt Him refining me and pruning me into becoming this Godly woman, the woman He created me to be. So with that said, I want to share some of these characteristics God has highlighted in my own life.

A Godly woman’s…

  1. Identity Is Rooted In Christ

One of the first things God does when He created humans was give them an identity…His Identity. In Genesis 1:27

            “So God created human beings in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”

God made us to look like and behave like Him, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. They created us in their “likeness”. We were created to reflect the very nature of God. This was God’s divine plan, but after the fall of man this identity became distorted in many ways. I truly believe that Satan uses this area to create strongholds, pain, and further disconnect from God in women, specifically in the area of beauty.

Every culture on the face of the earth has their own standard of beauty. With that comes so much pressure from the media, friends, and family and even ourselves to fit into that standard. The problem with that is when we feel we don’t fit into that standard then we start doubting the person God created. By finding fault in the reflection in the mirror we desperately try to change ourselves to fit into that beauty box, but we end up hating ourselves and if we are made in God’s image, then hating Him as well. This opens the door to so much more sin. Jealousy of other women, girl-on-girl hate, materialism, pride, the list goes on and on.

When we don’t know who we are in Christ, the enemy presents doors to false identities and causes further division among women.

So how do you see yourself?

Here is a beautiful wrapped gift box. The wrapping paper is perfectly wrapped; it looks very expensive. You can tell someone invested a lot of time and money in wrapping this gift box. By a show of hands who would like to take this gift home right now? 

Almost every woman in here. Now who wants this gift box? No one. Why? It looks so beautiful on the outside. No one wants just a beautiful box. This gift box is just a beautiful box if there is nothing on the inside.

  • Are you just a beautiful box?

Have you invested lots of time and money in making sure you look “beautiful” to the world? Spent all of your pocket money on having the nicest hairstyle and the nicest clothes and shoes. Made sure you do your makeup just right. But are you empty on the inside? Have you neglected the most important part of you? Your heart.

Have you neglected spending time and money on discovering the gift God has placed inside of you? Or have you neglected strengthening your relationship with Christ so He could transform you to look more like Him inside and out? Have you settled with just being a seat warmer at church? Not serving in ministry or learning more about the things you hear on Sunday morning by attending small group or even Bible School?

1 Peter 3:3-5 says:

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

1 Samuel 16:7

            “…The Lord does not look at the things human beings look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

A Godly woman invests in the gifts that God has blessed her with. Then no matter what she is wearing or how her hair looks she knows her worth is found Christ. If we want to be Godly women, we need to allow God to define us and transform us to look more like Him.

A Godly woman…

  1. Allows Jesus to fill every void in her life 

I hope everyone is familiar with the story of the Samaritan woman at the well. This woman comes to the well to draw water in the middle of the day which is the hottest part of the day in order to avoid the other women and their sneers. Then she meets Jesus and He calls her out about all of her “lovers”. He even asks her to go and call her husband and her response is, ‘I have no husband’. Jesus knows this is true because she has had 5 husbands and the one she has now is not even hers.

This woman is not so much different from us. Maybe we haven’t had 5 actual husbands but we are guilty of making ‘husbands’ out of other people or things in order to fill some void inside of us. “Husbands”: actual man, pursuit of a degree, status, material things, drugs and alcohol, or even food. There is something in our lives that we try to give the ‘husband’ title to which can only belong to Jesus.

We devote more time and energy pursuing these people or things that they become idols in our lives. Anything that hinders or takes precedence over Christ in your life is an idol. Whenever you have to choose between pursuing that man or thing over pursuing Christ and allowing Him to pursue you, then it’s an idol.

“Jesus answered her, ‘If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.’… Jesus answered, ‘Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but those who drink the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.’

John 4:10;13-14

In this scripture, Jesus offers this woman and all of us a much better option. He offers us something that will not just quench our thirst for a little while, but He offers us something that will quench our thirst for all eternity. He offers us Himself, living water that will never run out.

He wants to be the only Husband in our lives, until He chooses to bring us human husband, but even then that husband will never be able to fulfill you like Jesus can. The void in your heart is God-shaped. We must stop trying to fill that emptiness with things and people who will only leave us feeling more empty inside. Instead drink from His well which flows living water.

A Godly woman…

  1. Is servant hearted for the Kingdom

Ephesians 6:7

            “Serve whole-heartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not man.”

In our pursuit of living out the gospel (making disciples), God has called all of us to be united with a family or body of believers and to serve Him and His church. I know that for many of us we are new to Grahamstown and we are trying to find our footing, so we put off joining a church or serving in ministry until much later. But we really have this backwards. Our first priority when moving to a new place is finding a body of believers to unite ourselves with ladies. This is our covering and protection. We make finding a hairstylist a priority when we move to a new city, but what about a church?

It is almost September. The ninth month of the year. We surely know by now where we want to be planted in a church. Then the next step is finding a way to serve in that church. How can we expect God to bless us with our own home and family one day if we can’t be faithful with the family and church home He has placed us in??? If we can’t sacrifice a few hours a month to serve in ministry and extend His kingdom.

How are we serving to build and extend His Kingdom on earth? Come on my sisters! Ministry leaders that are here tonight, I pray for an influx of women wanting to join.

A Godly Woman…

  1. Has an intimate relationship with Christ

I believe as women we have a tendency to not know the meaning of rest. Many times we are tasked with carrying our own burdens but also the burdens of our families, friends, and society. At the same time, still expected to be strong and encouraging and keep a smile on our face and be cute and slay and do this and do that and, and, and. I feel God has blessed us with the ability to multi-task in order to do so much for so many. Just read Proverbs 31.

But God never meant for our work or our ‘busyness’ to become an idol nor be more important than Him. He is more impressed with our ‘being’ with Him than our ‘doing’ for Him. Our purpose in life is to sit at His feet.  Everyone knows the story about the sisters Mary and Martha in Luke 10. Martha was heated that her sister Mary left her to do all of the work of being a good hostess while she sat chilling with Jesus. But Jesus reminds all of us in verse 41 and 42 that:

“Martha, Martha, the Lord answered, ‘you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed – or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Yes, Jesus wants us to do great things for His Kingdom. Yes, He wants us to serve others. But the service or the ‘doing’ becomes fruitless when we don’t know the Saviour we claim to be serving. Our serving becomes more about us than bringing glory to God.

It is vital for our wellbeing for us as woman to learn to sit at Jesus’ feet. To find rest and restoration at His feet. To know Jesus on an intimate level. To spend real, intentional quiet time with Him. Not just to unload all of our heavy baggage onto Him, but mainly just to enjoy His presence. To bask in His glory.

A Godly woman…

  1. Says “Yes” to God’s calling on her life 

Many of the remarkable women of the Bible like Sarah and Deborah and Ruth had incredible faith in God which allowed them to do impossible things. Their faith and courage to go against what was expected of them by society and say Yes to God’s call on their life has earned them a place in history.

Mary the mother of Jesus was just a young girl faced with an incredibly amazing opportunity of a lifetime to carry and give birth to the Saviour of the world. She would be risking her and her family’s reputation as well as her own life. She made a great decision by saying Yes to God. Have you ever imagined where would we be if Mary said no. Obviously God is greater than the decision of this one woman, but God specifically called her to carry the Messiah. The fact remains she could have allowed fear and popular opinion to keep her from fulfilling the call on her life.

I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if I said no to God’s call to come back to South Africa. If I would have allowed fear and comfort keep me from fulfilling His mission.

A Godly woman lives without fear. She avails herself to do great exploits for the Kingdom of God. She lives each day with a “yes God” in her spirit. She doesn’t allow fear or even the opinions of man or finances or what is expected of her from pursuing Christ and the call that He has placed on her life.

A Godly woman knows who she is in Christ. She knows her power because she knows the One who gives her that power. She serves with her whole heart. She makes sitting at Christ’s feet her number one priority. That is where she finds rest and strength. She lives without fear but surrenders all her plans, goals, desires, and expectations to her Father.